Dealing with domestic violence

Click Image To Visit Site Behaviours that elicit fear or anxiety may be vexing, but may also be too terrifying to talk about them.

After all, they don’t manifest all the time. It is often even hard to know what is going on or what is behind you partner’s sudden outbursts of anger. Even if you know that something is wrong, it is not enough to know what to do about it.



Violence in families is widespread and can take various forms. It can start with name calling or belittling.

In some countries, even 80 per cent of women experience abuse and domestic violence. In Europe, some 30 per cent of women are subjected to violence.

The feeling of being overwhelmed or trapped in your relationship may indicate manipulation Dependency, for some, may not be entirely obvious, while dealing with sociopathic behaviours is difficult.

Hoping that such relationship will change may become just another trap, while feelings can make it hard to discern between what is real and what is only apparent.

Abuse often seems be preceded by intoxication involving alcohol or drug abuse. Some display violence only towards their families while others are aggressive also towards those outside of their family circles. Abusers may display various levels of aggression and psychopathy.

Findings in psychology indicate that males perpetrate domestic violence to control female sexuality. Domestic violence triggers homicides, as it often leads to violence. Psychology has various explanations as to the underlying causes of domestic violence, as caused by various deficiencies in coping strategies or skills that includes the inability to control anger. Women who lack social or family support are more often exploited by their abusive partners. Older men may often also be abusive towards their younger female partners.

Aggressive behaviours happen frequently rather than by chance. Such behaviours are most often followed by more physical aggression later on. Abusers are more violent if they know that they won’t face any consequences.

Some batterers create so called ‘projective identification’ where certain states or emotions are projected onto another person, who may then acquire certain elements of their abusers’ personality. Strong emotions can elicit behaviours that imitate projected emotional states or features. Such projections can even result in acquiring some physical features, such as voice pitch or speech manner by those abused. This process occurs on an unconscious level, so we may be unaware of it.

Partners who are abusive may suffer from borderline personality disorder, where aggressive behaviours elicit violence. Their attitudes are provoked by experiencing so called ‘splitting’ characterised by extreme views of others and their behaviours as either extremely good or extremely bad to the point of ideation or hatred. Abusive individuals who perceive their partners as extraordinarily good or bad will make unrealistic interpretations of what is happening in their relationships as well. This in itself can lead to conflicts.

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